Unmasking your partner online: Read his “LIKES” carefully

Unmasking your partner online: Read his “LIKES” carefully

Thanks to social media, folks can now gain 100% access into their partner expectations of them by just following what they ‘like’ online.

If she consistently “likes” all well-toned, energetic musclemen on Instagram, whenever posted it could be a pointer that your partner prefers such shapes, size and likes it. One like could be ok – may be a mistake. Another like of a similar post from same or different account, could point to something. More than three likes could be a pointer to a key interest. In murder cases, “aforethought” is a key ingredient and could (always will, if proved beyond reasonable doubt) get one the maximum sentence. Consistent liking of a particular “body”, “person”, “style”, may point to something beyond a mistake! It could mean your heart and soul desires that one.

Sometimes you may not be communicating well. And maybe she hopes you will snoop around (that is why she accepted your social network connection in the first place) so that you see what her heart desires. May be she wants a well-toned up man or woman like the one she has just “liked” on Facebook, Twitter, G+, Instagram or other social site. Better wake up.

The ladies are not alone.

If he “likes” all bootylicious (artificial or otherwise) images of ladies on Facebook or any social forum, take note. Unlike a ‘spam’ email or sms, that just pops up in your in box. A “like” has an action. The eyes must see, the brain internalizes and sends a message that click “like” on this.  In some cases, the like is followed by a comment. That usually implies the heart could also have been involved… which is a risky thing indeed in relationships speak.

Do not get me wrong. Some people post quality analysis and original articles, illustrated by a picture/ image. A like on such an article could be acceptable.

However, it is common to find a person liking anything a certain person posts – even when the post is completely rubbish from a professional perspective and your understanding of the level of education and training of a certain person who has liked it.

And then the on-going “liking” of posts that raise issues which the partner would not openly raise and discuss with their spouse. Sometimes they just “like” the author. Is that ok? In that case, use your brains and the context.

And with globalization, if a lady “likes” another lady’s posts don’t feel relieved as yet. Likewise, if a man “likes” another man’s posts consistently, don’t lose your guard. On social network, anything can happen. You know well about ebisiyaga.

Liking posts is good and will continue. There is a difference between insights and gossip. Get concerned when one likes everything posted just to get noticed by the other person, that they “liked” their post.

Welcome to social media.

About M. B. Mugisa

Mustapha Barnabas Mugisa is one of those rare people who provides business consulting and advisory to professionals and corporate entities who demand the very best. He is a prolific speaker and governance (strategy and risk) expert. His speaking involves making key notes at major conferences and business events on both technical subjects and leadership skills. A change agent and motivational speaker. Mustapha provides tools and proven methodologies to remarkable results through making people appreciate change. Visit Mustapha's LinkedIn profile to know more. Mustapha is the architect of #WinningMindset Leadership and #WinningTheGame strategy approach that combines Harvard Business strategy Playing To Win, with the Blue Ocean Strategy and Balanced Score Card to deliver a strategy that is easy to execute and monitor. Visit www.mustaphamugisa.com for special insights to improve your condition. Are you too good to be great?

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