What is your personal cross? Have you accepted to carry it without complaining or you are working hard to have others carry it for you. At family level, people don’t want to carry their own cross. At any slightest of a challenge, they want an easy way out. On 5th June 2010, a former old boy at Makerere University called asking for help in his wedding preparations. He requested that I support him as his best man. I hesitated, but he insisted. That evening he came to my office and we reminisced the University times and how we were buddies.…
Tool #29 of 104 is to forgive
Luke 6:27-29 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also.” He was sacked at the height of his career. September 12th 2004, one of the managers, a 48 aged Engineer, working in a government Ministry then, was subject of an investigation because of a malicious tip-off from a colleague. The victim, had used personal savings to buy a piece of land in Bugolobi in preparation for retirement. He wanted…
The angry lady at a saloon
Men. Why do they it. Men… You men, why do you do it? She started the monologue immediately she came to clean my head after the haircut. Most of the time, I ask my barber to complete the job. Today, the saloon was very busy. The barber asked me to allow one of the ladies to work on me, as he works on another customer. I accepted. A lady, who appeared in her mid-30s came and started off adjusting my seat. She extended her arm to my chest, as if to open the first button on my shirt, to which…
The sister temptations
‘She found me in the sitting room. Held me tightly, her soft palms covering my ears fully. For a moment I could not understand what was going. She gave me a kiss. And in an instant, she shouted ‘I am sorry. Forgive. You are too cute to resist. I don’t know why my sister has got all the best things in life.’ She ran back to her bedroom and locked the door.’ I now accept that however strong the body might be, if the mind is weakened, you are finished. After the breakfast in bed, I started thinking about my…
Tool #24 of 104 is repetition
Ecclesiastes 1:9 “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” You do not become a good Catholic by only receiving the sacrament of baptism. You don’t become a good wife just by marrying in Church. And you don’t become healthy by running a marathon once a year. The secret lies in small effort, done repeatedly. Saying prayer daily. Attending Church often. Participating in Church activities. Jogging daily. And eating healthy daily. She wanted to change her lifestyle. She wrote three new years resolutions on 5th January 2018. (i)…
Marriage woes: to check the phone or not
“I want you to recover all the WhatsApp messages, SMSs and Facebook chats. My husband is always smiling while chatting on the phone a for a long period of time in the evening. First, he comes home late. Then, he hooks himself on the phone and chats as he smiles. He won’t let me share on the jokes. It is him and the person on the other side. He is growing cold towards me and I need to know what exactly he is up to.” As a Team Leader at a digital forensic investigations firm, Summit Consulting Ltd, I often…
