“If you can sit down and have a meal together with your wife, you are lucky. Finding a partner and marrying is one thing. Remaining in love for a long period of time is a different ball game. In the two part series, I will provide you with ideas to enjoy your marriage and build a strong bond with your wife. I was invited on 2nd January 2019 to speak to couples during their final counselling session as part of their preparations before marriage. The topic on the table was “happily in marriage.” To drive the point home, I asked…
Tool #20 of 104 is to ignore minor issues
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God,” Philippians 4:6. Boom! It was a very loud noise from the rear of my car. The shaking was real and intense, and I felt in my hands on the steering wheel. Oblivious of the Monday morning traffic. I just stopped the car and went behind to check. I had been knocked from behind by a man who looked to be in his late 50s, tall donning a blue suit. I looked at my car. And to his. And then to…
Tool #19 of 104 is to pray
“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.” Mathew 5:6 The dream looked real. It was one of those rare dreams that I woke up and could remember everything. Experts and psychologists say that our dreams reflect our thoughts and some of the things pre-occupying our mind the previous day. I don’t know how true that is. If indeed dreams reflect our thoughts, I would be something different by now. It would be a matter of thinking hard about something and diving into the bed immediately after. I have noticed some consistence in dreaming.…
Tool #18 of 104 is to have True friendship.
Who is that friend who knows you very well? The message came in at 1:30am. Most messages from family, friends and colleagues at that time on wards to 5am are usually difficult ones. In the past (when I was still young and selfish of course) I would put off my phone to avoid interruptions. One day I heard nearby curfew at a neighbour. Being on a village watch WhatsApp group, I called our neighbour and informed them of the noise outside their gate. All their known phone numbers were off. I could not get out of my house. I tried…
Tool #17 of 104 is to know who you are
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 Time has a way of healing deep wounds. Some wounds are deeper than others. The journey of life is full of potholes, corners, hills and steep slopes. As we move along the road of life, each one of us tries to avoid the bad spots. We pray for a straight and clear route free of disappointments and bad luck. However, occasionally, bad luck may visit the family, friends and…
Tool #16 of 104 is to be part of a cause
Proverbs 19:17 “One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the LORD, And He will repay him for his good deed.” What causes are you involved in? Regardless of how much money you have, it is critical to be part of a social cause. Most of the time, you don’t need money to help someone. Some people have the money and all they need is a genuine friend. Others have friends all they need is money. Others have friends and money, all they need is counselling. Man (and woman) is a social animal. When you join a social…
