Ecclesiastes 1:9 “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” Some people you meet, and they go. Others you meet, and they stay with you forever. I am not one who enjoys listening to motivational talks. I have given several speeches personally over the years. And like all speakers, there is that feeling of hubris that ‘I know it all.’ It is a bad feeling as it invites us not to improve. But this changed sometime back in 2007 on my very first trip to South Africa. In…
Why try me with your sister?
Why try me with your sister? “At about 9pm, I had a knock on my bedroom door. Not sure of who was outside, I opened the door. It was my wife’s sister. She was wearing a see-through pink night dress, so tight and revealing like someone with a tight swim suite walking out of a swimming pool. I could see all her body corners. I was suddenly alarmed. This lady had personally escorted my wife, her sister, to the airport for a seven days business trip to China for an early morning flight. As my mind was racing through so…
Marriage woes: to check the phone or not
“I want you to recover all the WhatsApp messages, SMSs and Facebook chats. My husband is always smiling while chatting on the phone a for a long period of time in the evening. First, he comes home late. Then, he hooks himself on the phone and chats as he smiles. He won’t let me share on the jokes. It is him and the person on the other side. He is growing cold towards me and I need to know what exactly he is up to.” As a Team Leader at a digital forensic investigations firm, Summit Consulting Ltd, I often…
Why and who to marry? Part 2
“In a good marriage, couples are like Tennis players, when one beats the ball to the other player, it must be returned. Once one stops returning the ball, the game is over.” That is how communication among marrieds should be – a two-way traffic. One of the red flags of a marriage in problem is lack of swift communication between the couples. You make a phone call and it takes long to be answered. You text, no response. In the morning, you greet, and no response comes. Or the husband or wife just gets out of bed, and the next…
Why and who to marry?
I met my wife at my brother’s wedding meeting. Before then, I did not know that she was my student for a period of over 10 months! It was in 2004. Being early birds, we found ourselves the first two at the meeting venue. And that is how we started a conversation. As they say, the rest is history. We wedded in 2006. We continue to surprise each other. Before you decide who to marry, start with why do you want to marry? Why marry by when? Forget the motivation talks out there on “each person has got their own…
Complacency Kills Careers
There is a difference between pushing yourself to the limit, and being comfortable with little. If God has blessed you with a gift of making money, then make lots of it and donate it to worthy causes. Do not just be comfortable with little and just sit. I have seen people who upon buying a home with a good address; have a brand-new German car and a family, they think they have arrived. And all they do is to play golf, watch TV, drink and go home to sleep. They just disengage all the gears and get comfortable with the…
