“In a good marriage, couples are like Tennis players, when one beats the ball to the other player, it must be returned. Once one stops returning the ball, the game is over.” That is how communication among marrieds should be – a two-way traffic. One of the red flags of a marriage in problem is lack of swift communication between the couples. You make a phone call and it takes long to be answered. You text, no response. In the morning, you greet, and no response comes. Or the husband or wife just gets out of bed, and the next…
Why and who to marry?
I met my wife at my brother’s wedding meeting. Before then, I did not know that she was my student for a period of over 10 months! It was in 2004. Being early birds, we found ourselves the first two at the meeting venue. And that is how we started a conversation. As they say, the rest is history. We wedded in 2006. We continue to surprise each other. Before you decide who to marry, start with why do you want to marry? Why marry by when? Forget the motivation talks out there on “each person has got their own…
Money and sex in marriage: How to enjoy the two
“If you can sit down and have a meal together with your wife, you are lucky. Finding a partner and marrying is one thing. Remaining in love for a long period of time is a different ball game. In the two part series, I will provide you with ideas to enjoy your marriage and build a strong bond with your wife. I was invited on 2nd January 2019 to speak to couples during their final counselling session as part of their preparations before marriage. The topic on the table was “happily in marriage.” To drive the point home, I asked…
Complacency Kills Careers
There is a difference between pushing yourself to the limit, and being comfortable with little. If God has blessed you with a gift of making money, then make lots of it and donate it to worthy causes. Do not just be comfortable with little and just sit. I have seen people who upon buying a home with a good address; have a brand-new German car and a family, they think they have arrived. And all they do is to play golf, watch TV, drink and go home to sleep. They just disengage all the gears and get comfortable with the…
Study the wall first. Don’t just drill through
2019 is here. We are all pumped up to conquer the year swiftly. This morning, I received the following message on my FB newsfeeds.: “Obstacles won’t stop me. If I run into walls in 2019, I won’t turn around and give up. I will drill my way through! 2019, don’t you dare me… Happy new year to you all…” The first statement “Obstacles won’t stop me”, is a great one. Our minds are wired to give up at any slight challenge. Only the people that ‘train’ their minds to persevere, get far. You can easily experience this when you indulge…
Talent is useless without hard work
If you don’t work hard on your talent today, you could die with it just like a anybody. You will never know your potential. At 20 years, it is probably too late to identify and nurture your talent. All you have is to focus on your chosen career and give it 100%. That means you must work hard at such a critical turn in your life. Start 2019 on a high by watching The Immortals, a new TV show on Dstv. The series profile top performers in all sports from footballers, to athletics and world champions in all fields examining…
